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According to Dr. Daniel B. Wile, the problem with the rules of good communication is that you can’t use them while you’re angry, which, unfortunately, is exactly when you need to use them most. The reason you can’t use them while you’re angry is that they directly contradict anger, telling you not to be angry […]

Empathy, highlighted by caring about the feelings and concerns of others, finds its opposite in contempt, which is marked by a disregard or denigration for others’ concerns. According to another article based on the research of Dr. John Gottman, contempt is the number one predictor of divorce. In this response, Dr. Susan Heitler explores why

Dr. Susan Heitler has attempted in this article to explain relationships with the use of the “paper, stone, scissors” game (or whichever variation you may know). The idea is to relate where positivity fits into a relationship with anger management and skills for effective communication. Dr. Heitler suggests that not one of those things is

If your relationship seems bogged down with snapping that leads to petty fights, it may be time for a relationship makeover. The relationship makeover is a seven point challenge over the course of a week designed to improve relationships. It isn’t supposed to feel natural or easy and results may not be immediate. Robert Taibbi,

There are many little things that couples do regularly that actually damage their relationship. Because they are small, their adverse affects may not be immediately noticeable, but many small things over a long period of time can still lead to big problems. The good news is that this behavior can be corrected. The first small

When one patient stated that he had no interest in working to make his relationship better because he believed a good relationship should just work on its own, Dr. Jane Greer told him that he could either work at having a better relationship with his wife or he could work on plans for separation and

As there are different languages in the world, there are different ways for people to show love to each other. This way of showing love, or the language of love, can vary from person to person in the same culture the way the spoken word can vary between continents. The result is that if two

Everyone needs a night to themselves occasionally. Not a night spent at home in front of the TV with junk food, but a nice evening out alone. It isn’t uncommon to resist this idea, afraid it would look weird or unattractive to be out alone, but Dr. Sherrie Campbell insists that a lonely date is

In most aspects of life, people understand that it takes effort, practice, and often a good teacher in order to learn proficiency in something. People don’t usually sit down at a piano for the first time and expect to be able to play Chopin. People do, however, tend to begin relationships under the assumption that

Some busy people find themselves unnecessarily burdened because they have a difficult time telling people “no” when favors are asked of them. This can affect people in varying degrees, but this article lists nine tips to help us learn to tell people no. The first is to “know your no.” This means to be able