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Psychology professor Anita Kelly studied the effects of lying upon health and relationships. A group of people aged 18 to 71 were divided randomly into two groups. One group was instructed not to lie and another group was given no special instruction. Subjects from both groups came in weekly to answer questions about lying in […]

Dr. Karen Sherman helps a woman who asks how she might help her husband deal the with the loss of his father. She assures her reader that, after a year, most people get over such a traumatic loss. Sometimes it can take longer but after one year we have marked the annual events that we

Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Janice Driver have labeled nine ways that we bid for emotional connection with our loved ones. These seemingly small gestures are not to be taken lightly. They are ways in which we try to establish intimacy with others and to ignore or reject them may create problems in these relationships.

Boredom is sign that something is wrong. A myriad of problems, both personal and interpersonal, may manifest in a boring relationship. It is also possible that you have lost interest because the dew is off the bloom. After the initial coital bliss of new relationship it is natural that you find yourself looking at the

Contrary to what the media may be telling you, not all relationships are sexually sizzling. Forty million Americans are involved in “sexless” relationships. The good news is that lack of sex is not always an indication of a bad relationship. When both partners have a low sex drive, a sexless relationship may be fine. Problems

Happiness is fleeting. Even lottery winners find happiness fades quickly. Psychologists call it "hedonic adaptation." A recent paper on the subject says that there are two reasons that happiness does not last. One is that we stop noticing the changes that once made us happy. The other reason is that we acclimate. We lose ten

A successful marriage requires skills, tools, and hard work. Learning what tools to use and developing the skills to use them well takes time and effort. The reward is an improved relationship. Marriages that seem to be working could always use fine tuning. A willingness to work at a marriage by improving your skills shows

Marilyn Wedge, Ph.D. relates the story of Gordon and Estelle, a couple who came to her for therapy to save their marriage. Well, it turned out that Gordon had one foot out the door and was really just looking to get Estelle to come to the realization that the marriage was over. Estelle, on the

While it’s important to discuss problems and express your feelings with your partner, there are some methods that work better than others. Consider approaching a difficult topic in this manner: First, concentrate on what you genuinely love and appreciate about your partner. This will help you keep your complaints in perspective and be more caring

There are many factors involved in having a lasting, happy marriage. Sharing similar values about money, raising children, and life priorities are important for a lifelong commitment, and that commitment forms the foundation and structure of a relationship. Couples in lasting relationships need to be excellent communicators and listeners and show gratitude and appreciation for