While the rewards and joys of parenthood can be immensely satisfying and deeply meaningful, those who cling to an unrealistic and romanticized vision of having a child may be set up for a very rude awakening. Having a baby, especially that first baby, not only turns any parent’s world upside down, but it also causes […]
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Unfortunately, depression is very common – ten percent of adults in the United States are struggling with some level of depression at any given time, according to recent statistics. That means even if only one-quarter of depressed adults are in a relationship, a high percentage of people are affected one way or another. Which Came
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The very short answer would be to start having lots of sex! It’s not that easy. According to Newsweek magazine, 15 to 20% of all marriages in America are considered “sexless.” What exactly is a sexless marriage? What Is a Sexless Marriage? A sexless marriage may not literally equate to zero sex, but it is
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As a marriage counselor, when I see a couples for the first time, I frequently observe how each partner tries to show the other (and me) that they’re in the right on a particular issue and their partner is wrong. When this happens, I am quick to point out that when couples are focused on
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Perhaps one of the trickiest challenges to navigate in marriage involves the extended family. Laying the ground work for good relationship foundations should ideally begin even before a couple announces their engagement and intention to live happily ever after. Starting off on the right foot with the in-laws, from the first introduction, can help prevent
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Before you send that “we’re history” text or click “send” on that equally short blunt email, stop and think again. (Assuming you gave it any thought in the first place.) Even if you never want to see or have anything to do with this person again, remember that he or she is not only a
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Earlier this month Seth Adam Smith posted a thought-provoking article on his blog, which you can read here: http://sethadamsmith.com/2013/11/02/marriage-isnt-for-you/. The premise of his article, titled “Marriage Isn’t For You” is that you don’t get married to make yourself happy, but to make your partner happy. Love and marriage is all about the other person and
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Late last winter I met with one couple who were very distant from one another. Interestingly, they weren’t fighting very often (but did from time to time)! They were however, so disconnected from one another that it was as if they lived in separate homes. They had two young children and yet had been married
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Earlier this year I was working with one couple who were struggling mightily in their relationship. They had been married more than a few years, yet both were left feeling somewhat unstable in their relationship. They both felt “on edge” and it was only partially related to the frequent conflict they endured. The “D” Word
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What is financial infidelity? The level or nature of financial infidelity varies from couple to couple and is partly relative to the couple’s financial situation. Generally, it involves spending, borrowing, or stashing away a significant sum of money without your partner’s knowledge. This is often done through credit cards, especially when the account information is
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