Many couples struggle with engaging in healthy communication practices. Unhealthy communication can lead to conflict over finances, division of labor for household tasks, extended family problems, and several other issues. Even those proficient with talking about those topics will typically not be confident talking about intimacy issues in the bedroom. Those who do talk about […]
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It’s mostly understood that couples have a lot of conflict around money and financial decisions. It is commonly accepted in the counseling world that financial disagreement is the top issue couples fight about the most. However, a new study about financial stress shows that worries and disagreements about money are not only damaging to relationships
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Conflict in relationships is inevitable. However, some couples mistakenly conclude that a lack of arguments is a sign of a healthy relationship. Unfortunately, avoiding conflict is a temporary strategy that ultimately only causes more problems. Some sidestep conflict because they have zero confidence that having a disagreement won’t lead to things getting worse. The truth
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There’s a good reason why therapists inquire about your childhood in therapy. Our early lives affect our later experiences. In attachment theory, John Bowlby proposes that early caregivers’ interactions with us have a significant impact on our development. This is especially important for our social and emotional development. Bowlby identified how people attached to one
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There are many qualities in a partner that people look for: attractiveness, sense of humor, personality, and mutual compatibility. Yet, are there specific qualities that can “make or break” attracting a partner? A recent study produced some unexpected results, finding that the number one quality that young adults were looking for in a partner is
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In the long run, relationships in which partners don’t express themselves and put their own interests aside will likely fail. For some, the potential fallout of not appropriately meeting one’s own needs can lead to arguments and built up resentment towards their partner. A new study supports the body of already existing research involving the
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Many Americans bring their work home with them from the office. This is due to the ever-increasing demands of many occupations. However, bringing actual work home does not account for the stress that many bring home to their house. The reality, though, is that forty-hour workweeks are a thing of the past for full-time employees
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Dating couples, of course, start off living apart from one another. If the relationship progresses, they may decide to move in together, which is an obvious next step. However, there is a new trend: couples in established and committed relationships are now living separately from one another. This is called living apart together, or LAT.
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In working with hundreds of couples over the years, many patterns start to become apparent in those relationships. One of these patterns, without a doubt, for couples who end up in my office is that the clear majority of them are very poor communicators. Often poor communication is a result of never developing the skills
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It’s been repeated many times that we humans are social creatures and that we enjoy and even thrive when in other people’s company. This was confirmed by one of the longest studies that Harvard has conducted on human relationships. The Harvard Study of Adult Development began in 1938 and tracked 724 men every year for
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