In my work, I see dozens of couples each year. A majority of those couples have struggled to stay calm during conflictual interactions. When the intensity level gets too high, these couples automatically lose the ability to have a productive conversation with one another. What Happens When We Fail to Lower the Intensity? When […]
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In the normal ups and downs of a committed relationship, amid work stress and family life issues, couples can struggle to feel connected to one another. Yet, according to research from Southern Methodist University, partners are actually good at recognizing when their partner is angry or happy. However, where they really struggle is at picking
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The statement, “Men like to fix things and women like to listen,” follows a general stereotype. Yet it also contains quite a bit of truth as well. Of course, no one likes to see their partner in pain. Typically, men first respond by trying to fix the situation. However, attempting to fix things can lead
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There are many variables important in creating a healthy relationship: being compatible with one another, having mutual interests, and sharing similar values are important. However, one quality stands out amongst the others: making up and smoothing things over after an argument. Dr. John Gottman refers to this as the ability to “repair” a relationship after a
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Practically every new couple that comes into my office has a need to communicate in some way. Most couples who need help have trouble resolving the conflict. Also, from my experience, they’re almost always at least one partner who is struggling to manage their emotions. This makes it difficult for partners to resolve their differences.
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Many couples enjoy spending time with other couples. In fact, for many, spending time with two or more couples tends to make up most of their social engagement, particularly men. Stereotypically, unmarried or single males might socialize a little more, but not by much. Research shows that there are benefits for couples who socialize with
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The benefits of emotional intelligence have been widely reported. Emotional intelligence helps us understand our own feelings and those around us. In doing so we typically have a heightened understanding and compassion for others. We also become open to different perspectives and opinions. These are important considerations for men who want a successful and lasting
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So you’re engaged and set to be married in a year. Your aunt pulls you aside to say that she has the secret to a successful marriage. She goes on to say that the secret is even supported by scientific research. The question is, would you listen? The Research It turns out your aunt
Many studies show that married men are healthier and live longer than unmarried men. Yet, little research has focused on how marital quality (and specifically how marital quality changes over time) can affect men’s health. However, a study from researchers at the University of Bristol and University of Glasgow examined the risk of cardiovascular illness
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Unless you are still in the honeymoon stage of a relationship where sexual desire is at its peak, you’ve probably experienced sexual desire differences with your partner. However, if you are no longer in the honeymoon phase, but have noticed either you or your partner is not interested in sex at times, this can signal
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