Earlier this month Seth Adam Smith posted a thought-provoking article on his blog, which you can read here: http://sethadamsmith.com/2013/11/02/marriage-isnt-for-you/. The premise of his article, titled “Marriage Isn’t For You” is that you don’t get married to make yourself happy, but to make your partner happy. Love and marriage is all about the other person and […]
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Late last winter I met with one couple who were very distant from one another. Interestingly, they weren’t fighting very often (but did from time to time)! They were however, so disconnected from one another that it was as if they lived in separate homes. They had two young children and yet had been married
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Earlier this year I was working with one couple who were struggling mightily in their relationship. They had been married more than a few years, yet both were left feeling somewhat unstable in their relationship. They both felt “on edge” and it was only partially related to the frequent conflict they endured. The “D” Word
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What is financial infidelity? The level or nature of financial infidelity varies from couple to couple and is partly relative to the couple’s financial situation. Generally, it involves spending, borrowing, or stashing away a significant sum of money without your partner’s knowledge. This is often done through credit cards, especially when the account information is
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After a relationship argument is worked out, life can get back to normal, right? Sure, except sometimes for the nagging thoughts that sometimes persist even after peace has been made. These thoughts bother you, causing you to wonder how your partner could have done the things that sparked the argument in the first place, even
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A new study from Ohio State University shows that a person’s marriage will last longer depending on how many siblings they grew up with. This conclusion was arrived at from data on 57,061 adults collected from 1972 to 2012. Douglas Downey, who co-authored the study, explained to CBSNews.com that their findings showed that if a
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Psychology has been attempting to define love for decades and may not be any closer to a definitive answer, but, in the meantime, Robert Sternberg of the University of Wyoming has provided an interesting framework for ongoing discussion with his triangular theory of love. Not to be confused with a love triangle, the triangular theory
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The problem of parents not approving of their children’s partners is not a new one. These issues can come from something as small as the parents having a bad impression of the partner or genuinely not getting along with them, to cultural rifts from a child falling in love outside of their culture and the
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Many people who are busy feeling the devastation of a relationship ending ought to instead be questioning what it is exactly that they lost. It’s true that one of the most painful things in life might be loss, but the idea presented here by Dr. Lisa Firestone is that many people who suffer from loss
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It isn’t uncommon to encounter a person who believes that the only “right” way to live is the way that they themselves have chosen. Attitudes like this essentially boil down to a worldview that equates good living with living according to that person’s individual needs, which leads to a lot of judgment and criticism of
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