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Laurie Mintz, Ph. D. writes in this article about the difference between being selfish and taking care of yourself. Women, she says, tend to confuse the two. This confusion can lead to problems in the home and in relationships. She mentions a proverb that says, “You must fill your own pitcher before filling everyone else’s […]

Jumping into a sexual relationship or cohabitating before getting married may be a prescription for disaster in relationships. A new study by Cornell University researcher Sharon Sassler and her team looked into relationship “tempo.” They conducted an online study of 600 couples who were married or living together where the female involved was under 45

A myriad of problems, both personal and interpersonal, may be manifest by a boring relationship. It is also possible that you have lost interest because the “dew is off the bloom” and you are facing reality. After the initial coital bliss of a new relationship it is natural that you find yourself looking at the

Psychology professor Anita Kelly studied the effects of lying upon health and relationships. A group of people aged 18 to 71 were divided randomly into two groups. One group was instructed not to lie and another group was given no special instruction. Subjects from both groups came in weekly to answer questions about lying in

Dr. Karen Sherman helps a woman who asks how she might help her husband deal the with the loss of his father. She assures her reader that, after a year, most people get over such a traumatic loss. Sometimes it can take longer but after one year we have marked the annual events that we

Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Janice Driver have labeled nine ways that we bid for emotional connection with our loved ones. These seemingly small gestures are not to be taken lightly. They are ways in which we try to establish intimacy with others and to ignore or reject them may create problems in these relationships.

Boredom is sign that something is wrong. A myriad of problems, both personal and interpersonal, may manifest in a boring relationship. It is also possible that you have lost interest because the dew is off the bloom. After the initial coital bliss of new relationship it is natural that you find yourself looking at the

Contrary to what the media may be telling you, not all relationships are sexually sizzling. Forty million Americans are involved in “sexless” relationships. The good news is that lack of sex is not always an indication of a bad relationship. When both partners have a low sex drive, a sexless relationship may be fine. Problems

Happiness is fleeting. Even lottery winners find happiness fades quickly. Psychologists call it "hedonic adaptation." A recent paper on the subject says that there are two reasons that happiness does not last. One is that we stop noticing the changes that once made us happy. The other reason is that we acclimate. We lose ten

A successful marriage requires skills, tools, and hard work. Learning what tools to use and developing the skills to use them well takes time and effort. The reward is an improved relationship. Marriages that seem to be working could always use fine tuning. A willingness to work at a marriage by improving your skills shows