Is Your Relationship Not Working Well?

Feeling emotionally drained from frequent conflict?

Are you finding that you’re so disconnected from your partner that the smallest issues easily turn into major arguments? Or, do you find yourself avoiding interacting with your partner entirely?

Maybe you are trying to recover after you or your partner had an affair?

Perhaps you’re feeling like you’re living with a roommate and wondering if you can have your soul mate back?

Are financial disagreements causing a stalemate or power struggle in your relationship?

Don’t Give Up – I offer Couples Therapy in San Ramon
and the surrounding areas.

Dr. Brian Gersho is a relationship expert practicing in the Bay Area for over 18 years. He has helped many couples re-build their relationship by helping them rediscover their compassion and intimate connection. He also has helped numerous couples recover after an emotional or physical affair.

If You and Your Partner Are Unsatisfied, You’re Not Alone…

Many people end up in relationships that have not lived up to their expectations. As a result, they feel stuck and unsatisfied in their relationship. Many life stressors contribute to the distance in relationships and couples are often feeling hopeless, dejected and are resigned to having an unfulfilling partnership. Additionally, they can feel frustrated, resentful and angry towards their partner. The relationship is often not so awful where one partner decides to leave. However, any attempt to resolve issues typically leads to more and more conflict. Unfortunately, many couples then become stuck in unsatisfying and distant partnerships. This often turns into a vicious cycle where relationships become paralyzed and stagnant.

Things Can Get MUCH Better…

Fortunately, you don’t have to settle for a distant and unfulfilling partnership. In couples therapy with Dr. Gersho,  you and your partner can:

• Resolve current conflict & past resentments
• Re-establish the connection and joy in your relationship
• Build a passionate and fulfilling sex life
• Create an intimacy filled with affection & trust

Questions & Answers

But how do I know couples therapy will work after everything we’ve already tried?

I can definitely understand you feeling hesitant and perhaps a little pessimistic about trying yet again. Many couples that I’ve worked with have felt the same way after finding little relief from prior couples therapy, reading books, and even attending workshops. What these couples found was that through the first few couples therapy sessions, they quickly began to see hope that their relationship can in fact change for the better.

What if our disagreements don’t seem to be resolvable?

This concern does occur fairly frequently. It is understandable that you might feel this way since every attempt (thus far) to resolve the conflicts with your partner haven’t been very productive. Many of the couples who have been in treatment with me have initially felt this same way and had very little hope. However, what these couples found early in therapy (some after the very first visit!) was that their problems were in fact NOT insurmountable. And they then became quite hopeful and encouraged that this process would be successful.

This sounds like a lot of work. I’m not sure I have the energy to do it.

This concern may be the most common amongst couples I have seen. It really is not surprising for you to feel this way. Couples who are stuck in their relationship rarely have any leftover emotional energy to devote back to their relationship. After all, they have gone down MANY unproductive roads in an attempt to resolve their problems and things either didn’t change or even became worse! What these couples in my practice have found is that early in treatment the renewed hope they felt (after discovering the keys to a fulfilling relationship) quickly energized them. A taste of success for their partnership really motivated them to work harder than they would have ever imagined.

How do I know you’ll be the right choice for us?

You won’t know 100% until we meet! Current research does in fact tell us that the absolute best predictor of success in therapy is the quality of the relationship between the therapist and client(s). I suggest that couples meet with me for three initial sessions to determine how you feel and to see if we actually are a good match for one another. If it feels we are not the best fit for each other, I will happily refer you to other therapists who I feel may be a better match for you based on our first three meetings. If you have any questions please don’t hesitate to contact Dr. Gersho by phone or email.