In a newsletter about intimate conversations, Dr. Daniel B. Wile provided an example of two partners initiating an intimate conversation by confiding fears that they had been keeping to themselves, both worrying about being less important to their partner than their partner is to them. Someone asked Dr. Wile how an intimate conversation might still result if both people don’t share this fear and one partner actually agrees that their partner is less important to them. If they agree compassionately, an intimate moment will still result. However, even without compassion, an intimate moment can be directed by the therapist. The direction would be to rephrase the uncompassionate response in a confiding manner.
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