Abusive behavior is distinguished by attempts to control and/or dominate. Control and domination differ in the motivation of the abusive partner. Control is driven by fear or anxiety. The abusive partner wants to neutralize perceived threats to themselves or the relationship, or they wish to prevent discomfort. Domination is motivated by the adrenaline rush that comes with feeling superior and the need to prevent challenges to their perceived superiority. In general, women are more controlling and men are more dominating, but both genders can engage in tactics of control and domination. Abusive behavior toward women tends to evoke fear of harm, deprivation, or isolation. Abusive behavior toward men evokes shame and dread of failure.
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