Daniel B. Wile, Ph.D. lets us in on his side of the couples’ therapeutic encounter. During the course of counseling, he often interjects restatements of what he perceives as his client’s feelings. The trick, he claims, is to give his clients an easy way to correct him. He will preface his statements with such phrases as, “I am just guessing, but…” or ” This is pure speculation, however…” or other such opening remarks. He may ask directly if his statement is on the mark. He often gives multiple, even opposing statements. Then he follows up on nonverbal cues that his clients give him. In these ways, he keeps his clients in the conversation.
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