It seems counterintuitive, but you can actually argue your way to a happier marriage, according to Kevin D. Arnold, Ph.D. Couples argue over any number of things. Difficulties arise when these arguments are never resolved. They get stuck in a vicious circle that never gets them anywhere. These couples are mismatched in their style of arguing. One person wants to compromise, another wants to be heard right away and agreed with or perhaps either one doesn’t really want to deal with problems. Here are three keys to breaking these patterns. First, try softening your approach. Second, get closer though fighting; non-defensively engage each other. Finally, discover more about each other and understand what triggers arguments.
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