While the common advice is to forgive and forget, associate professor of Psychology James McNulty at the University of Tennessee has found that forgiving might build up resentment and getting angry can be the best way to solve relationship problems. He found that behaviors people presume to lead to better wellbeing actually lead to worse wellbeing among the people who most need to achieve better wellbeing. For example, agreeable people tend to be less likely to offend their partner if they know the partner is forgiving, whereas disagreeable people will be more likely to repeat the behavior and offend the partner.
Read the full article here: Scientists Reveal the Secret to a Happy Marriage: Don’t Forgive and Forget, Get Angry Instead
